Imagine if someone told you that you’d never be able to say “I love you” to your soul mate again. What if every important word you wanted to tell them could only be written on some piece of paper, its meaning up for interpretation?
Imagine you could never again feel the passion of your lover’s kiss.
How crazy would that be? Everything that makes us feel alive — gone, in an instant.
Imagine navigating through life with your most intimate feelings and emotions stripped from you completely.
Unfortunately, millions of people face this reality every day. They would give anything to call their lover’s name or feel their touch, but they can’t. Accidents and illnesses rip some of life’s most precious gifts away from us.
Then there’s the flip side.
Some of us live this half-dead existence by choice, taking what’s real for granted.
So many people immerse themselves in everything besides the love of their life.
Think about that for a minute.
Double-tapping or liking a photo has become the universal sign of interest. Text bubbles have replaced spoken words. Emojis define our moods. Meeting up at a bar has become people’s idea of an interesting date. Sending flowers has become so generic, that it’s just a click away.
And our relationships? Just another person in our inbox, with a higher rank on our favorites list.
We text them more frequently, reserving our favorite emoticons just for their conversation. Holding hands? How can we do that when we have our key fob in one hand and our smartphone in the other? Conversations? We’re too busy checking our news feed or scrolling through Instagram to pay much attention to what our significant other is saying.
Oh, and sex? We can do that over text, too: #sexting
We’ve lost our ability to connect, and everyone seems okay with it. We’ve forgotten how to say I love you, we’ve lost the romance and passion. Hell, most people have even forgotten how to socialize.
Think about the last time you said I love you — I almost guarantee it was through some form of technology, not words.
I’ve seen people put more thought and effort into selecting a filter for their selfie than they devote to their relationship. Why? Because as much as we hate to admit it, we actually do care about what others think. Why else would it consume our time?
We thrive off the comments, likes and positive reinforcement.
You know what’s sad? Those people don’t really care.
What’s even worse is that we’re building the foundation of our relationships on the very premise in which they are being destroyed — online dating, Facebook, etc.
How we can expect our relationships to be filled with consistent verbal communication when they were born from the polar opposite? How can we expect someone to love our values and vision for life when they are “selecting” us by swiping right solely on looks and a short bio?
Society has made us believe it’s easier this way.
Why have courage to approach someone when I can just log on to some website?
Why call someone when I can just send a quick text?
Why go to a florist and hand deliver her flowers when I can have them shipped to her door?
Letters and notes? We’re lucky if we have a pen in our homes.
We’ve hidden behind pieces of glass, yet we want something so genuine, so overwhelming — old fashioned, so to speak.
News flash: That’s not happening.
That type of love has long escaped our generation, and there’s no sign of its return.
Remember that saying, “What comes easy doesn’t last?” Apply that to your relationships.
We are so much more than texts and symbols that appear on some screen.
The human touch can never be replicated. The spoken words “I love you” can’t be felt through a display.
That connection you feel holding your lover’s hand can never be emulated.
Those things absolutely can’t be transferred over Wi-Fi.
We’re human — our strongest desires can only be filled by the power of another person.
We’ve been convinced, though, that there’s an alternative.
The result? Lifeless relationships.
I’m not ready to kill real love.