As an adolescent it’s easy to associate strength with one’s physical ability. As you grow and mature in your life, you soon realize that strength has less to do with more and everything to do with less. 

I’ve made no secret about my obstacles in life. My journey led me down a road that promised to be beautiful. Everywhere I looked I felt the blessings from above. I was recently promoted at work, just purchased a brand new home, and preparing for a gorgeous wedding with my beautiful bride. There wasn’t a single moment that ever led me to believe that this beautiful road would turn into a road of destruction and road blocks. It wasn’t long before I was fighting to keep my job, putting my house up for sale and finalizing my divorce … all within a twelve month span. It’s only when I lost everything did I realize how strong I was; it was all I had left. 

For me strength has always been a mindset. Let’s face it, life can be difficult and everyone has their own battles to fight. Mental strength can assist with overcoming problematic situations, finding peace through struggles, and navigate us to a more pleasant life. You see, being mentally strong helps remove clutter from your mind, and gets your thinking to be clean. Once you’re able to remove unnecessary evils from your thought process, you can focus on what’s truly important.

Mental strength begins with prioritizing your life and what truly matters. Too often people get caught up with who has the bigger house, who makes the most money, who has the nicest car, etc. It’s a competition and it plays into their thought process everyday. All of that has been elevated in our day and age with the introduction of social media. The more elegant house you have, the more likes your photo gets and so on and so forth. I know a number of people who have everything and are extremely miserable; nothing is ever enough. None of that stuff matters though, at all. What matters is that you’re alive, and God wiling, have your health. Forget about what everyone else has, instead focus on what brings you happiness. That can be walks on the beach, sitting in Starbucks drinking your favorite drink, working out, reading a book, going for a run or even writing to name just a few. All of these are simplicities of life that set your mind free.

The next step is ridding yourself individuals who offer no contribution to your life. We focus our energies on others opinions and how they treat us, and we tend to get angry when it’s not the way we had hoped for. Remember, nobody can hurt you without your permission. Time is too valuable to waste on part time friends who only associate with you when it’s convenient for them. Or relationships that are filled with broken promises or selfish intents. Grant people your time who rather act than speak. The less people in your circle, the better. Associate with those who share the same vision as you and desire much of the same out of life. Discuss your goals and dreams together, often. It’ll make for more interesting conversations and an even better friendship or relationship. 

Soon you’ll begin to notice how quickly you’ve removed stress from your life by focusing on less. Outside of your mind, strength is everywhere around you. Walk outside and look up at the sky, the trees swaying in the wind, the ocean waves crashing on the shore, the birds chirping on a summer morning, the sunset on a fall evening, the children playing outside. Hug your mother, hug your father, laugh together, cry together. Let all of this make you feel alive. You’re never alone regardless of the battles you may face. There’s always a light at the end of the tunnel and it’s strength that will help you get there. 

Stay strong.